Sexy D was telling me the other day that at the place of his employment, he is not allowed to wear sandals. He must wear dress shoes at work. But it’s okay for women to wear open-toe shoes, ballet shoes, or pumps.
He’s not allowed to wear shorts, not even when the temperature in his office approaches that of the surface of the sun (actually, I think he said they have air conditioning, but still). Women are allowed to wear short skirts and capri pants, but men must wear full-length dress pants.
He is expected to dress in business attire, which probably means he has to wear a collared shirt, possibly even a tie, but are women permitted to wear sleeveless shirts and camisoles?
This burns me up.
In junior high school, there was a rule that you could not wear shorts to school. At all. For any reason. Girls were permitted to wear skirts with hemlines not more than 2″ above the knee, but boys were not permitted to wear cargo shorts or, as was the style of the time, flour bag pants. Plus, that school had no air conditioning, and many of the windows were nailed shut and had bars over them. So a bunch of the more athletic and popular boys in the school borrowed skirts from their girlfriends and wore skirts to school.
The school administration was *so horrified*, they sent the boys home to change. I thought the boys looked lovely. The school conceded to allow us to wear capri pants, flour bag pants, and shorts that came to the knee.
In high school, where the school was designed like a prison and the only windows in the entire building were in the old part of the place, and did not open *at all*, we had the same rule (I suspect it was because this was in the late 80s, not long after those horrible terrycloth Adidas hotpants were all the rage), and again, the boys borrowed skirts from their girlfriends….I am, of course, assuming they borrowed their girlfriends’ skirts. I am overlooking the possibility that some of the boys I went to school with had better taste in skirts than I did. (I hated skirts, btw.)
The administration of my high school were summarily horrified. They attempted to send the boys home. But this time, the boys just said “no, thanks. I’m more comfortable like this.” That school *did* have air conditioning, and a number of boys wore skirts for a week or two. In fact, a couple of my friends wore the kilts they used in their pipe & drum band…and of course, they were also asked to go home and change…
I remember one kid giving the principal, who was of Scottish heritage, a lecture on kilts.
Anyhow, we got that rule changed, too. After the boys’ protest, the school changed the rule and allowed boys and girls to wear shorts with hemlines no more than 2″ above the knee, and girls only could wear skirts with a similar hemline. Boys were *not permitted* to wear skirts, which I found somewhat disappointing.
As the mother of two wonderful male children, I am disgusted at the clothes available for kids; girls’ clothes are often designed to make five year olds look like hoochie mama whores, but the ones that aren’t at least offer many style choices to choose from. If you have boy children, you have three options: camouflage, denim, or brown.
To compete with the hoochie mama whore clothes for five year old girls, the boys have gangsta chic, with droopy drawers and quilted vests. Nice. Probably no worse than what they did to children in the Renaissance, but still.
ANYWAY, the point I am haphazardly trying to make here is that when I go on about equality, I’m not doing so to the detriment of men. If women are permitted to wear open-toe shoes to work, then men ought to have the option as well. There are dressy sandals available that would be appropriate for a work environment. If women are permitted to wear sleeveless shirts and camisoles, then men should be permitted to wear short-sleeved shirts. If women are permitted to wear capri pants or skirts, men ought to be permitted to wear appropriate shorts (or skirts, if they want to).
Double standards kind of get under my skin.